Deep thought

Monday afternoon, ChengChun's (Didi) house suddenly had no electricity when he and Tham were studying for their finals... They wanted to go Equine to find a place to study and therefore asked me along... We went McD and stayed there for about 2 hours... I don't know if they really can study while chatting with me, but they did flip their notes... Chatted something about love, and I had a deep thought after that...

Perhaps different people have their own concepts and viewpoints in love, there's no right or wrong... And people with several experiences in relationship before does not indicate that they will not be hurt so deep... Indeed they might feel the greater pain... Some people might not have rich experience in love, but they manage to find their true love at first sight... Their first love might be their last also, what I mean is marriage... Hence, I think there is no certain theories in love... Feelings and rationality always cannot be parallel in love... Love is blind...

However, the end of the day, 3 of us came out with a same viewpoint, which is girls normally won't like guys who treat her too good or care her too much... In chinese, there is a quote sounds

"男人不坏，女人不爱"...

See, that's women.... XD


Received a friend's message lately, chatted with him for few days... He seems really unhappy and stressed... He doesn't like his work place now... He even started to doubt about himself, about his current track... I don't know how to comfort him, I only try my best to encourage him... If you have no confidence on yourself, there is no point how well others believe in you, because you have already denied your own ability first... I told him this, I shared with him my fear and my own doubts too... He doesn't seem to get motivated, he is still down... He is still the him I know, with too much of inferiority, too much doubts about himself... How can I help you?

You thanked me before our conversation ends, you said you're glad you still have me to talk to... But do you know I'm not happy at all, I know I didn't manage to help you in fact... Pretending to smile is just too fake on you... Perhaps you do not need my words, you need your ownself, to search your confidence and willpower back...

Anyway, you can just find me anytime, when you need someone to be there for you, k?

Cheer up! =)

Is that all about life? Love and work... Why people tend to see things negatively? Can't we all be more passionate toward our own life, relationships and work? Or life can only be complete with the presence of sadness, anger and unsatisfaction... Can't happiness and joy stand on their own? I think it depends... Lock yourself in your own box is definitely a silly choice... I don't want my life to be locked!

Yet, where should I walk next then?

Wondering about something too, is it wishing people Happy Birthday at 12am means alot? This has been a culture of us sending a birthday message at 12am on people's birthday...

For me, yes, it means alot, but I know that those who didn't wish me by time are not being insincere, they might just being too busy... I always have a perception, whereby people who wish me in the afternoon or at night before my birthday ends, surely because someone or something (Friendster or Facebook etc) reminded them...

However, one of my friends proved me wrong... He was kinda angry when I said that to him... He told me he was just reminded by the date, a familiar date, when he looked at his phone...
Yea, I shouldn't have doubt his sincerity...

Years after, now, I do not emphasize on when people wish me, what I really appreciate now is they actually willing to waste some credits, to send a message or to call me up for my birthday...

Whether by 12am or not, whether who reminded them, it doesn't matter anymore... Birthday wish cannot be a measure of sincerity...

No doubts on friendships! =)

** Sigh! That's life?